Karen Dejo Innumerable studies have gone into finding out 'reality of the male sex drive', but now a new study claims that men really are 'hornier' than women. Roy F. Baumeister at Florida State University, Kathleen Catanese at a Midwestern college and Kathleen Vohs, a professor of marketing, set out to find the truth, reports Oxford University Press. They approached the problem like this. Imagine two women (or two men for that matter), such that one of them has truly a stronger sex drive than the other. What differences in preferences and behaviour would you expect to see between the two of them? After months of reading and compiling results, the answer was clear. There is a substantial difference, and men have a much stronger sex drive than women. To be sure, there are some women who have frequent, intense desires for sex, and there are some men who don't, but on average the men want it more. Every marker pointed to the same conclusion: Men think about sex more of...

Leryn Franco It's really quite amusing that our Kamasutra ignited fantasies, stoked the flames of passion and become a sexual bible in the west. But back in India, sex is still a taboo topic and The Kamasutra, a "part of history" meant to adorn bookshelves. But that's changing fast. Women have awakened, and to quote Bette Midler, "If sex is such a natural phenomenon, how come there are so many books on how to?" Much to the Indian male's chagrin; wives who once lived in blissful ignorance, are now demanding to know why they have not yet experienced the big "O" and the mortified Indian male now has a clear choice. Foreplay or no play!!! Sorry guys! Indian women are not willing to be just 'reproductive beings' anymore. They are watching TV, reading books and doing pop quizzes in magazines to assess for themselves where they are placed on the sexual barometer. The sexual revolution in India is no longer just a media event. Women of all ages...

You may dread bringing up the 'S' word with your kids, but experts say it is a must-talk-about topic, finds Rachel Fernandes 'Mum where did I come from?' That is a common question that most parents face. But it's not the question you need to focus on, what's more important is how, you as a parent, reacted when your child asked you this basic yet very complicating question? Did you cringe and say 'Chee don't ask such questions' or tell him/her 'the good old stock dropped you in my lap' story or did you given them a simple and practical answer? Experts vouch for the fact that how you answer this all important query can in fact, make quite a life-long impact on your child. So what is the right age to start talking to your child about sex and exactly how much of information should you divulge? According to Seema Hingorrany, clinical psychologist, parents should right from the time the child is three-and-a-half years old. "You can't tell ...

Marital discord could turn to harmony and reconciliation if you use the period of 'separation' right Friends' star Courteney Cox and actor husband David Arquette have separated after 11 years of marriage. Hardly irregular in tinsel town or the real world. A break could halt a marriage on track to splitsville. However, clinical psychologist Salma Prabhu tells us how we can use separation to rethink the relationship and progress towards reconciliation. When to break When you find yourself bickering over the same issues cyclically, making no progress, it's time for a break. There is a feeling of not growing together, of "I am stuck, trapped." One may feel that (s)he is miserable and is making the other miserable too. A truce is called for and break provides that. The upside Staying separately can stoke a spark that has dulled because of other priorities. A separation dissolves trivial issues such as personality flaws and partners learn to accept the spouse as a s...

Older men who talk to their partner about sexual problems report greater happiness, says a new study. Published in the Journal of Gerontology: Social Sciences, the study shows that the way men and women deal with sexual health and stress in their later years varies greatly and that there is not one solution that can help ease unhappiness caused by sexual problems. The research was conducted by Ryo Hirayama, a Ph.D. student in Oregon State University's Department of Human Development and Family Sciences, and professor Alexis Walker, who is the Jo Anne L. Petersen Chair in Gerontology and Family Studies at OSU. The study was conducted with data from the National Social Life, Health, and Aging Project. To reach the conclusion, the Oregon State researchers looked at 861 people ages 57 to 85 who were married or had an intimate partner, and who reported having at least one sexual problem. The sexual problems reported by older adults included lack of interest in sex, inability to climax, ...

Ageing is something you can't avoid, so it's better you embrace and use it to your advantage to feel sexy and young, says an expert. Kristi Michelle "The 20s are a time that's idealized. I think it is such a time women are struggling to find their identity and figure out who they are and establish themselves in their careers but the 30s tend to be a real time of security for that very reason because we have a much better sense who have we are and that is sexy," CBS News quoted psychotherapist Jenn Berman, as saying. "You know, one thing that's important to keep in mind if you don't start out feeling confident and sexy, you fake it until you make it. The behaviours - behaving as if you feel sexy and behaving as if you feel confident - leads women to feel confident," she said. Jarvis agreed, saying more women in Hollywood - from Diane Keaton to Demi Moore - have been embracing their sexy side. She added, "Do you think our sense of age is chang...

According to Sigmund Freud, the father of psychology, sexual repression was the chief psychological problem ailing mankind. He said that constriction and repression of sexual behaviour in youth would manifest in adulthood. We, on the other hand, live in a society that still considers sex as taboo and frown upon ways to relieve one's sexual urges, especially if practiced by the unmarried. Hardly anyone speaks about such important issues that affect several people. Maybe it's because one is afraid of being labelled a deviant, pervert or sexually frustrated. Definition Sexual repression can be defined as an inability to express one's sexuality. It is often associated with feelings of shame and guilt being attached with expressing sexual impulses. However, sexual ethics differ from culture to culture and what might seem forbidden in one culture might not be so in another. Psychiatrist and sexologist, Dhananjay Gambhire says, "A person's inability to express his or her ...

In today's times, perhaps beauty is skin deep. No wonder, 30 and 40-plus brides in cosmopolitan cities are thronging beauty clinics to look radiant and younger on D-day. From botox to de-tanning to liposuction, they are doing it all this wedding season. "India as a country has progressed considerably over the years and one of the fundamental changes that has taken place in society is the age at which women are getting married," cosmetologist and dermatologist Vandana Chatrath. "We are seeing more women getting married in their early 30s. Marriages of single or divorced women who are in their mid-40s are also on the rise. All women want to look their best on their wedding day irrespective of age, so we have seen a rise in brides-to-be of these age groups coming to us," she added. The trend is rising around the country. Bangalore-based Chytra V Anand said the number of such cases has been maximum this year. "Now the trend is to get married at a later age, esp...

Texting, eating and indulging in sexual acts are among the top activities that people do while driving. According to a scientific survey commissioned by hands-free headset maker Jabra, 28 per cent of respondents in six countries including the United States say that they've texted behind the wheel. Seventy percent of respondents said that they eat or drink regularly, and 35 per cent admit to getting dressed or undressed. In fact 29 per cent have kissed while driving and more than half that, fully 15 per cent, have engaged in sexual intercourse or another sexual act. Freshening up by styling hair or applying makeup is done by 23 per cent and 13 per cent of those surveyed, reports Fox News . Less people read actual newspapers and magazines than e-mails, but the numbers are still high, 10 per cent and 12 per cent, respectively. But, only 5 per cent of drivers sneak in a video game while driving. And 63 per cent of respondents have yelled at other drivers while commuting.

Friendly or outgoing people are more attractive, a new study suggests. In the study, Gettysburg College psychology professor Brian Meier and his research team found that people who were high in the personality traits of agreeableness or extraversion were rated by strangers as being more attractive. Meier's team assessed the personality of 217 men and women. The photos of these men and women were shown to unacquainted strangers who rated their physical attractiveness. They found that the men and women who had higher levels of agreeableness or extraversion were also rated as more physically attractive even though raters did not know or interact with the individuals. Meier said: "The results suggest that there is some truth to the 'beautiful is good' stereotype or the 'halo effect'. People have a tendency to think that attractive people also possess 'attractive' qualities - such as being friendly, outgoing, and smart." He added: "Interestingly, i...

You need to shed the good girl tag to win love... Sugar and spice isn't always nice. In the dating game, just being nice to your man doesn't make him more devoted; at times you need to be the 'bitch' to walk down the Valentine path. That, in a nutshell, is best-selling author and columnist Sherry Argov's premise of her seminal books Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches . "Men secretly respect a woman who is strong, has confidence and dreams of her own," says Sherry. "They don't want women who are needy and desperate for approval." So the key to conduct new-age relationships is: discover the feisty attitude that will turn you into a diva from a doormat," says Sherry. Why nice girls finish last Ever wondered why despite putting your best face and foot forward, and treating your dreamboat like a dream, he seems to go for someone smarter, sassier and sexier - aka 'The bitch?' It's possibly because: - You're making i...

Each one of you is special. We are all different and none of us will be attractive to women in the same way. Some are great dancers, others have traveled a lot and others may be great cooks. Which is YOUR skill? This really matters because that skill you have will make a certain place, a bar or a mall, for instance, better for your game. So, as I explained with the best movies before, the best place to go and pick up is subjective. There will be a place that you and just you will be the most attracting man and some others where you would be the less interesting. The idea here is to get to know which is the place you should go to and to focus picking up there. For example, if you a great dancer, would you go and pick up girls in the park? You certainly could, but your success rate would never approach that of you in a club or dance floor. Which aspect of your personality makes you the most attractive? For my case, I believe that I can charm the girls I want when I speak about culture an...

From being the key spice in Worcester sauce to removing black magic spells, clove has a range of uses. This unopened flower bud of a tropical tree, native of Indonesia, is also offered to local deities. When fresh, the clove is pink and turns rust-brown when dried. It is called 'lavang' in Hindi. The curative properties of clove and its oil are legendary. Clove oil, applied to a cavity in a decayed tooth, relieves toothache. The oil is used to treat skin disorders such as acne, pimples, and severe burns. Clove-infused water is used to treat stomach upsets, nausea and diarrhoea. Folklore says that sucking two whole cloves without chewing or swallowing them helps to curb the desire for alcohol. Cloves were traded by Arabs in the Middle Ages as part of their buying and selling on the profitable Indian Ocean trade route. That's how it happened to reach Europe and beyond. Cloves, along with nutmeg and pepper, were highly prized in Roman times, and Pliny the Elder once famously ...

It’s the duty of every man to make his girl feel the very best in the world, the one and only. Doing this helps to build confidence in the couple and bring happiness to both man and woman. Still, not many men understand how they can do this, even if it’s something simple and basic for many of us. Here are a few strategies you could use to make your woman feel better. Show love in public Showing love in public is a win-win situation. Kiss, hug and touch your girl openly, in front of friends and wherever you go. Make her sit on your lap, hold hands with her… Those are plain, easy and very enjoyable ways of showing love. Perhaps you or she might be a bit shy about it at the beginning, but don’t let that stop you. It’s definitely something you have to do with any woman you love. This open showing of affections will make her feel safer in her feelings to raise her self esteem. Make her feel the one and only, not only by telling her but also by showing this love you have for her all the time...

We are constantly hearing about male celebrities who have given into unwise indulgences. What if a woman was to go out and have an affair? Would the transgression be ignored by the husband or would she have to pay big time? Rahul and Ruhi have been married for 8 years. A happy, compatible couple, Ruhi is the introvert in the relationship. She interests are few and far between, but she definitely loves reading. Luckily for her, she works for a publishing house in Delhi. Rahul, on the other had is full of beans, laughing and joking and the life of a party. Not surprisingly, he is a trainer at a well-known call centre. Being neighbours, I have known them for years. At festival time we surely meet up and sometimes, I bump into Rahul at the gym we both visit. But off late, I haven't seen either Rahul or Ruhi. I wait a few days thinking maybe they have gone out of town. But when three months passed, a bit worried, I looked up Rahul's number in my diary. What he said left even me a t...

When I first moved to Vienna I was overwhelmed by the enormous amount of hot women out there and how easy it was to sleep with them. One night stands became part of my everyday life and I got really excited and crazy about it. In Argentina these things don’t happen, I was just shocked! Loved it and my friends home couldn’t believe all the stories I had to tell. How this could happen to me? What is so different from Argentineans and Austrians? Those were the questions I asked myself every day. One good day I met this guy who made it everything clear. He, from Kosovo, told me “You will notice that the more advanced the country is, the easier the girls are to get.” In Kosovo, still in Europe but very backwards, he said, women were very hard to sleep with. In Vienna and beyond, on the contrary, it was much easier. He was right, for I could see and experience that myself. But why? It all lies on the mentality of these women. Women from richer countries have a different mindset, they are mor...

According to the head of psychiatry at Stanford University, female company has more health benefits than previously acknowledged, both for men and women. Women, apparently, connect differently and provide support systems that help deal with stress and difficult life experiences. The doctor states that spending time with a female friend is as important for our overall health as jogging or working out at the gym is. The research proves that quality 'girlfriend time' helps the body secrete serotonin--a neurotransmitter that helps fight depression and creates a feeling of happiness. Wondering why male-to-male bonding cannot have the same effect? Well, the reason for this is women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about life or engage in a heart-to-heart conversation. Women, on the other hand, do it all the time. They share from their soul, and evidently it is doing them a lot of good health wise. Psych...

Every first kiss is unique, powerful and very inspiring. In most cases it becomes the first intimate impression women have from you, so you got to make it the very best. A good kiss usually means a faster way to bed, while a bad kiss can definitely ruin your chances with ease. In the following guide I will explain which are some of the points that make a kiss special, and what must all men do in order to be remembered as great kissers. Look and be kissable Dress up nicely, have a nice breath and your lips in shape. Those are three things anyone who wants to be kissed should know from the very beginning. It’s simple, but many men just don’t realize how important they are. Don’t eat garlic or onion before going out, and always have a couple of mints with you to tackle bad breath. Balm your lips if they are broken or destroyed, and always be presentable, well dressed. Put yourself in a woman’s feet and think, Am I kissable? The answer must be an outright yes! Use your hands It’s true that...

Though a tad coquettish, the lady standing across the hall has been giving you 'the eye'. Not only is she gorgeous, people around her seem enthralled by her intelligence too. The flirt in you takes over, but how do you make the first move? Hear it from Milind Soman, a connoisseur of sorts, on attracting the girl of your current dreams. Becky Wunder Clear intentions Earlier, I used to get carried away easily. While never intending to be unfaithful to my girlfriend, I would go ahead and flirt with other women. This would upset my girlfriend, but now I've realised that I showed complete lack of respect towards her feelings. While flirting is fun, it is best to know your own intentions because someone else's feelings are involved. If you initiate, also know where to finally draw the line by subtly communicating your intentions to the other. Both you and your flirting partner may be in relationships. If you don't want to jeopardise yours, the truth needs to come out. Wi...

You got to maximize your chances for anything you do in your life. Do this by practicing and being well prepared. Leave nothing left to luck. This includes when you go out to a bar or club too. Take with you all those things that will make your odds be as high as they can get. Every time I go out I take a handful of things that one time or the other help me in my goals, whichever they are. Here’s what they are for me and why I recommend you to take them too. Camera An easy pick, taking your camera out is a must. Firstly because it will let you open up groups of girls with ease, capture great and funny moments and it’s one perfect excuse for you go ask girls’ contacts and for them to ask yours. Secondly, you should load your camera with very best photos of trips and great moments. That way you can show and tell guys and girls excellent anecdotes of yours. Don’t go telling every random girl you meet “Hey, look, I was in Russia” but if you have the possibility of casually doing it at some...

Between covers, isn't that where love is supposed to lie? Shouldn't all love — or the making thereof — get your knickers in a twist? So why the fuss, the surprise, the tamasha and the brouhaha over forbidden love and those who forbid it? Love actually must be more chhupa chhupi than khullam khulla, and what's the fun of pyaar without the protest? Jade Stone For decades, true love had to contend only with crass commerce every Valentine's Day. The makers of cards, candles and heart-shaped everything in yucky shades of pink. The sellers of wine and roses. The merchants of diamonds which were supposed to be forever but which strangely had to be supplemented every year, or oftener. We had prided ourselves on being the originators of the book of love. Now we have to ask ourselves the question: What came first, the Kama Sutra or the VHP? Or the Shiv Sena, MNS, Ram Sene and every other self-appointed, self-righteous custodian of our morals, our culture, our entertainment ...

Following is a quick list of very important things all men should know about women and dating. The kind of things that will help you attracting and seducing the girl you want. It’s short, concise and very accurate. Unlike the 25 Traits Lists, which you can find here and here, this list is more focused on them rather than you. 1- A good perfume is worth every cent. If you’re going to attract someone, you need to appeal to all the senses. And women love good cologne. Never go out without it! 2- If you don’t satisfy your woman in bed, you are up to serious trouble. Even if she really loves you. 3- Never believe everything a woman says. It’s a step into maturity to assume that if she has to lie to you, she will. 4- Women love chocolate. 5- Never believe your woman is the exception to anything. I can bet you everything in the world that she is not. 6- A woman who truly likes you is never too busy for you. But time is precious. If you want to take a bit out of hers, you better have something...

If you are exhausted from doing up your home and entertaining guests and have no time or energy left for sex “ you sure need help! Joanna Krupa Here are five natural, easily available ways to enhance the female libido. Aphrodisiacs: These are certain foods known for heightening one's sexual impulses, arousal, and response. Chocolate . Have a low- cal choc every alternate day and you are good to go girl! Chili peppers . Trigger the pleasure-releasing endorphins. Oysters. They increase testosterone levels which benefits both male and female. Ginkgo. This herb helps the body achieve optimal blood circulation, which is important for sexual stimulation. Wild yam . This one is a sexual stimulant. However, there are other areas of your life where you need to focus as well. Sleep well: If you are not sleeping well and aren't getting the mandatory 8 hours, chances are you are cranky and downright uncomfortable. Who can think of sex, and on top of it, great sex, in such a condition? So ...

There’s one important thing all men who want to attract and seduce a woman should know: women will be inevitably attracted to those men who, they believe, can give them the strongest children. It has been like this since the dawn of history and it still is now. All women will be seduced by those men who they feel will be protectors of their children and themselves. It’s printed in their genes, it’s just natural. It has always been like that and it won’t change anytime soon. What did change though is which man actually represents that. A couple of thousands years back it was that man who, as a consequence of his power and strength had dominated the rest. In the present, the desired man is the one who is charismatic, influences others and has more power. In both cases, we are speaking about the traditional and present leaders of the tribe. In both cases, the leader of the tribe is the man with the highest amount of value. If you want to be successful with women, you got to have that very...

People over the age of 50 are among the most promiscuous lot, says a new survey. The surprising statistics revealed a quarter of this age group cheat on their partner, while one in six said they never used contraception with a new lover. Amit Freidman The poll, from the Co-operative Pharmacy, also found a third admitted they had "slept around" and admitted to unprotected one-night stands with strangers. The main reason people gave for not using contraception was that they "get carried away in the moment", reports the Daily Mail . This is despite the fact that the number of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in the over-50s is soaring across Britain. Natika Halil, director of information at the Family Planning Association (FPA), said: "The message is the same for teenagers as well as people in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s - don't take a risk with your sexual health over the festive period. There is only one protection against most STIs - wearing a condom...

When you meet a woman you can take her along two different paths: either you do as all men do or, if not, you risk and try something different. Both paths have their good and bad sides, but every time I have to pick up one, I always go for the difference. Let me explain you why. The girl you want has probably been approached by already dozens and maybe hundreds of guys. Most of these guys wanted to go out with her and also, probably, make her their new girlfriend. If you want to stand out from all those other men, you got to do something unpredictable, something new. You got to make her live a new experience. Because of this I strongly discourage taking her to dinner, to the park or for drinks in the first dates. Do something different, something crazy! And the possibilities are endless! Most men feel afraid of approaching something original. Many common arguments include “But we just met”, “That’s too crazy”, “She won’t agree”, etc. Thing is, that’s all bullshit. If she does like you ...

You're sailing on a dream-boat of a relationship and everything is hunky-dory, except for that niggling suspicion that your partner is the captain of the boat and you're being taken for a merry ride. Have your friends been hinting that you're in a one-sided relationship and being used? You may not like to believe it of your "loving" partner or even admit to yourself, but shrug off the comforting denial blanket. Don't sell yourself short, and you could be being used for sex, money, companionship or status. Does this throw up red flags? Look for these signs and then head to a quick break-up. Dates are mostly in the bedroom You are a few months into the relationship but mainly meeting up at each other's homes after or before work? Is food delivered to your doorstep? Ideally, dates should involve going out, sometimes with friends, or doing activities that interest you – movies, treks, cultural festivals, etc. But if you spend more time "doing" tha...